Yes, it is possible for someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) to have different alters (personalities) with varying feelings and attitudes towards their spouse or any other person in their life. Each alter can have its own unique set of emotions, memories, and perceptions.
In a marriage involving a person with DID, one alter may genuinely love and have a close, affectionate relationship with their spouse, while another alter may not be aware of the spouse's identity or may not feel the same emotional connection. This lack of awareness or emotional attachment could be due to amnesia between alters or because different alters have distinct experiences and interactions with the spouse.
It's important to understand that alters in DID are separate identities, and they can have differing thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. These alterations in identity are a result of the dissociative processes that occur due to past traumatic experiences, which led to the development of distinct identities as a coping mechanism.
Managing a marriage with someone who has DID can be challenging and requires understanding, patience, and open communication. The spouse and the person with DID may need to work together with mental health professionals who have experience in treating dissociative disorders to address the unique dynamics and challenges that arise in such relationships. Therapy can also help improve communication among alters, build awareness of each other's experiences, and foster a more cohesive sense of self within the individual with DID.