Yes, it is possible for someone to exhibit narcissistic traits or have a narcissistic personality without necessarily being physically and verbally abusive. Narcissism is a personality trait that exists on a spectrum, and not all individuals with narcissistic tendencies engage in abusive behaviors.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a more extreme form of narcissism that can be diagnosed by a mental health professional based on specific criteria outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). People with NPD may have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive admiration, a lack of empathy, and a sense of entitlement.
While some individuals with NPD may engage in verbally or emotionally abusive behaviors, others may not overtly display these behaviors but still exhibit other traits associated with narcissism. For example, they may manipulate others to fulfill their needs, have an intense need for attention and validation, lack genuine empathy for others, and have difficulty recognizing or validating others' perspectives.
It's important to remember that having narcissistic traits or even a diagnosis of NPD does not automatically make someone abusive. However, relationships with individuals who have narcissistic tendencies can be challenging, as they may struggle with forming healthy emotional connections and prioritize their own needs above others.
If you are dealing with a person who exhibits narcissistic traits and you find the relationship challenging or emotionally draining, seeking support from a mental health professional can be beneficial. They can help you navigate the relationship and develop strategies to protect your well-being and set healthy boundaries.