The expectations and reactions regarding in-between session contact with therapists can vary greatly among individuals. Different people have different preferences and needs when it comes to communication outside of regular therapy sessions. Here are some general points to consider:
Therapist Boundaries: Some therapists have strict boundaries about in-between session contact to maintain a healthy therapeutic relationship and avoid potential dependency or boundary issues. In such cases, they may have set guidelines for when and how clients can reach out and what kind of responses to expect.
Client Expectations: Clients also vary in their expectations regarding in-between session contact. Some may be fine with a no response, short response, or even just an emoji, while others might hope for more extended engagement and support.
Emotional Impact: If a client reaches out to their therapist and doesn't receive a response or receives a response that feels unsatisfying, it can trigger various emotions. Some individuals might feel uncared for or unimportant, especially if they were seeking support during a difficult time.
Transference and Relationships: In some cases, the feelings experienced in the therapeutic relationship (transference) can influence how a client perceives the therapist's responses and potentially affect their feelings in other relationships. For example, if a client had unresolved issues related to feeling ignored or unimportant, the therapist's response (or lack thereof) might trigger those feelings.
Personal Factors: Past experiences, attachment styles, and individual personality traits can also influence how clients respond to therapist communication or lack thereof. Some people might be more sensitive to perceived rejection or neglect, while others might be more understanding of their therapist's boundaries.
It's important to remember that therapy is a unique and individual process, and what works well for one person may not work for another. Communication about boundaries and expectations is vital in any therapeutic relationship. If a client feels triggered or upset by their therapist's responses or lack thereof, it could be an essential topic to discuss in therapy to explore the underlying emotions and patterns.
As for whether this is a TR (therapy) thing or a human nature thing, it's a combination of both. Communication and emotional responses are complex aspects of human relationships, and they can manifest in various ways, not only in therapy but also in other interpersonal interactions.