Covert narcissism and echoism are two different personality traits associated with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but manifest in distinct ways. Let's explore the differences between the two:
Covert Narcissism:
Hiding Narcissistic Traits: Covert narcissists are more introverted and appear to be shy or withdrawn. They may not exhibit the grandiose and attention-seeking behaviors typically associated with narcissism. Instead, they keep their narcissistic tendencies hidden, making it harder for others to recognize their self-centeredness.
Victim Mentality: Covert narcissists often play the victim, using a sense of being misunderstood or unappreciated to manipulate others into providing them with attention and validation.
Excessive Sensitivity: They may be hypersensitive to criticism, taking any negative feedback as a personal attack on their fragile self-esteem.
Entitlement and Superiority: Despite their seemingly humble demeanor, covert narcissists still harbor feelings of entitlement and superiority over others.
Echoism:
Submissive and Self-Effacing: Echoists, on the other hand, tend to be excessively self-effacing, submissive, and have an extreme focus on the needs and desires of others, often neglecting their own.
Low Self-Esteem: Echoists typically have very low self-esteem and struggle with feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy. They may feel undeserving of attention or praise and may even reject compliments.
Avoiding Attention: Unlike overt narcissists who crave attention, echoists tend to avoid it, fearing they might disappoint or be judged by others.
Lack of Assertiveness: Echoists have difficulty asserting themselves or expressing their own needs and preferences. They may defer to others' wishes and have a hard time saying no.
Attracted to Narcissists: Echoists often find themselves attracted to and enmeshed in relationships with overt or covert narcissists due to their complementary dynamics.
It's important to note that both covert narcissism and echoism represent maladaptive ways of coping with underlying insecurities and self-esteem issues. In the case of narcissism, whether overt or covert, seeking professional help from a qualified mental health provider is crucial for addressing these deep-seated patterns and developing healthier ways of relating to oneself and others.